Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Dealing with Losses

How does one deal when...

You’re a child and lost Amanda, the doll you did everything with?
Or when you tripped and lost grip of your chocolate ice cream?
Or when you’re a budding achiever and did not graduate at the top of your class?
Or when you’re a ballerina and you had your legs broken?
Or when you’re a lawyer and lost your first major case that could have made a name for you?
Or when you’re a man and lost your sight?
Or when you lost a family member to cancer?
Or when you had your heart broken for reasons that only you are to be blamed?
Or when you lost a scholarship that could have gotten you through college?
Or when you’ve been through hell and lost the genuineness of your laugh?
Or when you’re a mother and lost your first-born child?
Or when you wake up in the morning and you lost your drive to get up and pursue your plans?
Or when your favourite cup of coffee lost its distinct taste?
Or when you lost all your files a day prior to a big project defense?
Or when you’re driving along an expressway and lost your brakes?
Or when you lost your faith in things you used to strongly believe in?
Or worse, when you realize you are losing your zest for life?

Loss is inevitable, it’s a given fact. But tell me, how do you deal with it when it’s there, happening and slapping you in the face, and in unfortunate instances, all at the same time? You might answer me to just accept it, but how? Yes, loss is of varying degrees and can be dealt with in different ways. But again, how? Move on? But what if I don’t want to? What if I still can’t? I need to make a decision, either to drown in misery or forget it. Then, what? What will happen next? Will dwelling on it eventually tire me and let me move on? Or will it be the other way around? Or will hoping that time will rewind and have a chance to undo everything be a more comfortable resort?

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Random 25

from Facebook
Got tagged by Moi, Kat, Trish and Ate Cha. This sounds fun, so here it goes.

Rules:Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you.


1) I am scoliotic. I wore body braces for almost three years.

2) I have appreciation for the arts, specially performing arts. i make sure i watch every show in our auditorium.

3) and speaking of the arts, I have passion for dancing. i took ballet, hip-hop, jazz, and tap classes. I'm planning to take up flamenco and belly dancing when i have the time. wooh!

4) I cook spaghetti but before i cook the pasta, i can't help but eat a few of the raw pasta 'sticks'. haha

5) Red ants make me cry. One time, they pestered my laptop, i cried the whole night

.6) Kitkat is my favorite.

7) History and Geography are my most most favorite- est subjects of all time! I won 1st place in a HEKASI quiz bee when i was in 6th grade. Highschool classmates used to call me "soc-sci girl".

8) And because i love geography, i have a fetish for maps and globes. I love anything with a map on it. (I bought a globe for myself. and when i ask my friends for pasalubong, a map of their place will do.)

9) I made a classmate laugh real hard when i told him i want a penguin for a pet and make the freezer as its home. :p

10) I was an exchange student to Japan in 2007. I want to go back and stay longer.

11) I used to know how to speak and write a little japanese, but somehow i already forgot. no practice. booo.

12) I am a biology major. But one tragic day, in the middle of my literature class (while i was in Japan), i totally forgot what DNA stood for. It took me a while to actually write down what DNA meant. Deoxyribonucleic acid. There you go.

13) When i was younger, my parents let me joined the santacruzan in our village. I was not reyna elena. My sash said, "reyna rosa mystica". O, db?? Mystic. haha

14) I almost drowned when we went snorkling in Apo Island.

15) I am afraid of dogs.

16) Southborder still makes me smile like an idiot when i hear their songs. I am a BIG fan.

17) Mom once told me my name wasn't supposed to be April Dawn. They initially planned to give me the name PRINCESS RAPUNZEL. (?????) Thank goodness they didn't.

18) How i wish I can get a license and drive.

19) My curls are natural. People in the salon always ask me when and where i got my curls. But i used to have super straight hair, though. It just curled as i grew older.

20) In 3rd grade, I was a member of spice girls. I was Posh Spice. :p

21) Volleyball! I am for volleyball! Too bad i am too short for the game. but i'll be glad to be a libero.

22) Maybe your wondering, i'm just 4 feet , 11 inches tall. small and proud. :p

23) It takes me 10 snoozes before i really get up from bed.

24) I am saving up for a trip to ilocos. It would be nice to go there on my own, with my own money.

25) People call me dawnaidi. I call myself dawnaidi. dawn + junaidi = dawnaidi. yeee...

Wednesday, February 4, 2009


Browsing through the old files from Marianne's lappy, I found this...

(from a year ago at the Yokohama Train Station, Yokohama, Japan)







Blame me for wearing that. No, blame Marianne for letting me wear that! I swear I don't remember! Have a good laugh, Mar! hahaha Happy shopping!



Inday

Something for the non-visayan speakers... hehe


(taken from http://su.edu.ph/features/abscbnfeature41.htm)

Inday is not always a maid
By Liling Magtolis Briones
From ABS-CBN Interactive
June 16, 2008


THE BUSINESS OF GOVERNANCE
Yes, there are Indays who are maids. But there are also Indays who are leaders in
their professions as academics, politicians, businesswomen, artists and theologians.
One fine day an Inday can even be president of this country.




Yes, there are Indays who are maids. But there are also Indays who are leaders in their professions as academics, politicians, businesswomen, artists and theologians. One fine day an Inday can even be president of this country.

Last week, an article came out, reporting that Inday is finally going to school. This was the news item about a program to allow housemaids to go to school. Obviously it was written by a non-Visayan who thinks the synonym for housemaid is Inday.

Once and for all, the word Inday does not mean housemaid insofar as Visayans are concerned. It has several gradations of meaning. First, it is an endearment for a Visayan girl, whether from Cebu, Negros, Iloilo or Mindanao. In Visayan families, girls are always called Inday. Oftentimes they are called Inday all their lives.

Inday is a tender word which means, precious, dear, loved one. My Ilocano-Pampango husband calls me Inday even as I am old and graying. Certainly, he does not treat me like a maid. My brothers have always called me Inday even if I am not their maid. Parents call their girl children Inday because they are loved, whether they live in a hovel or mansion.

When it is expressed with the proper intonation and inflection, Inday is the loveliest sound any girl can possibly listen to.

This explains why Visayan girls who work as maids automatically answer "Inday" when they are asked about their names. They are only saying that in their homes, they are tenderly loved. Because many poor Visayan girls work as maids, the term Inday is often understood as referring to maids. Even maids who are not Visayan end up being called Inday!.

Second, it is a term to describe friendship and affection. Thus, Visayan girls who are close friends tend to call each other "Day" in the same manner that Visayan boys call their close friends "Bay" or friend.

Third, Inday is a term used to indicate respect. When a Visayan addresses a woman he does not know, he calls her Inday. Its like saying Miss or Madam. When a man wants to introduce himself to a girl, he prefaces his spiel with " Inday…."

Finally, the word Inday implies veneration or honor. A woman of high standing in a Visayan community is addressed as Inday. Thus Mayors, hacienderas, barangay captains and heads of religious organizations are called Inday. The wife of the late Pres. Carlos P. Garcia was called Inday Garcia.

It is time for Indays, wherever they are, to clarify once and for all what the word means. They should not allow one of the most beautiful words in the Visayan language to deteriorate into a generic word meaning maid. I dread the time when Visayan women will be embarrassed and ashamed because they are called Inday by their parents, siblings, friends, and community members.

This is not to say that it is shameful to be a maid. It is a very respectable calling. Maids abroad can earn more than a university professor in the Philippines. It is just that the term Inday does not mean maid, that's all.

Yes, there are Indays who are maids. But there are also Indays who are leaders in their professions as academics, politicians, businesswomen, artists and theologians.

One fine day an Inday can even be president of this country.